My main mantra is, “Reality is only but a perception of my mind; change your perspective, change your life”.

 

Everyone’s relationship with their self-care is unique. We have all grown up in different environments—culture, morals, beliefs, attachment styles, and parenting. And so, how self-care looks will be different to everyone.

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My focus is to support you on your journey of exploring and assessing your own self-care, uncovering the roots of your stress, anxiety, depression, people-pleasing behaviours, avoidance, and fear of abandonment. This process is challenging, and the peace of inner stillness will require your perseverance and awareness, as you begin to see how your actions can hinder your progress and how to alter that behaviour.

 

“Nothing changes if nothing changes”.

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One of the things that brings me fulfilment is working with women who, like me, have witnessed domestic violence, experienced domestic abuse, and abandonment issues. The conditioning we learnt in our childhood has shaped our attachment style, which, depending on whether it is secure or insecure, could negatively impact our relationships. Circle Sound’s women's circles are spaces that help individuals gain a deeper understanding of themselves and promote positive changes within their inner world.

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My relationship with self-care came to the forefront as I approached forty. It was a long process, marked by a series of eureka moments that arose from becoming more conscious and aware of my triggers, attachment tendencies, self-regulation, unhelpful coping mechanisms, accountability for my actions, and my academic pursuits. A few years after my son was born, I experienced burnout in every aspect of my life. I was extremely hypervigilant in my romantic relationships, which stemmed from learned co-dependency during childhood. Relationship patterns that I could see kept repeating themselves throughout my life. My life went through a series of events that prompted me to reassess my relationship with myself, motherhood, family, romantic relationships, jobs, and core beliefs. It is a continual process that requires compassion and space to be acknowledged. Perfectionism and self-criticism, which I once regarded as my strengths, turned out to be my enemies, as I wanted and needed to be seen as a “good girl who always did everything right”. Learning to relax has become an ongoing practice, which I observe as one of my Achilles heels. Our self-care is not just about the superficial act of going to a spa once a month; it goes much deeper than that. The quality of our self-care forms the foundation of our sense of fulfilment in daily life and enhances our ability to show love to ourselves.

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My vision for Circle Sounds is to integrate the study of psychology and astrology into my practice, shifting it from pseudo-science to a recognised science. Understanding human behaviour is a key aspect I wish to continue exploring. I aim to collaborate with people who have also gone through similar discoveries in their practice – Yoga teachers, astrologers, coaches, homoeopaths, professional therapists, reiki healers, shamanic healers, art therapists, and others. All represent different approaches to self-care. 

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My self-care non-negotiables:

• Talk Therapy

• More focused self-care a week prior to my cycle – Yoga, kirtan, mindfulness practice, physical exercise (running, time in nature)

• Dedicated time alone, unplugged from social media

 

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May your sound journey with me give you a feeling of harmony and clarity.

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With deep grace and gratitude,

Cherlyn

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